Manufacturing Love For Valentine's Day

by Gray Graham

​It's that time of year when people are rushing to stores looking for luscious boxes of chocolates, fresh cut roses, gigantic stuffed teddy bears, wonderful greeting cards, dinner reservations at a fancy restaurant, and of course diamonds.

There are so many men that are in the stages of planning that dreamy romantic Valentine’s Day for a woman in his life. Many men know that if he gets this wrong, his life is going to be miserable for the next few months if not few years. It's won't be enough if he tried if he gets it wrong. He has to do something that is going to move her and leave her breathless in awe.

For those women with a man incapable of pulling off this romantic feat or those without a man in their life then she will take the initiative to plan her own Valentine’s Day evening of what she wants done for her. Having been disappointed in the past, sometimes for years, she is bitter and she will do whatever she needs to do to get everything she feels she deserves from a man on Valentine’s Day.

So many people try to create love out of nothing for one day of the year. Valentine's Day has been marked as the day that men show women their deepest undying love and how much he cares and treasures her. He must provide charm, romance and most importantly treasures to purchase her love. This is a coupon, discount free zone. 

There are people out there that missed the memo that Valentine's Day is the day they are required to tell their love one that they love them. They are going to approach the day just like they do every day, loving each other. It probably will be boring to many a romantic woman with no steaks, lobsters, champagne, or diamonds in sight. Just two people who love each other living their lives together. Every single day.

No one should ever feel like they have to do something extra to show they love another person. No one should ever feel like they are owned love and demand someone do a number of tasks to show their affection and devotion.

Fancy dinners and diamonds are not love especially when done out of duty. Love is a feeling that is there whether you are staying in a fancy hotel or just sitting on your couch. It's there on February 14th and September 26th the same.

Too many people have no idea what love is. People think of the dictionary definition of love which is deep feelings or strong affection. Which is correct if one has a pure loving heart but few people have a pure loving heart. You can have deep feelings and strong affection for someone and those emotions are completely negative, wrong, and harmful to everyone involved.

The love that many are seeking is the love that God has for us. It is a love that is kind. It does not ask of anything. It freely gives of itself. It does not make demands or proclamations. It is a love that endures and will always be with us. It is a love that is pure of the heart. 

God’s love will always be with us. We don’t have to do anything to create it, but it just happens. There is nothing like sharing God’s love with another human being. It is a great feeling and I truly understand why so many seek it out but we have to let it happen naturally. A lifetime of love is so much better than a day of strong affection.