Love Is All That You Need In A Marriage

by Gray Graham

Spoiler ***To make a marriage successful, love is all that you need. It really is that simply. It is not complicated. If you love someone then your marriage will be fine. If you don’t then your marriage will not last, at least not one based on love. We will now begin the inspirational post.***

Over the past couple of weeks your social media timelines were probably bombarded with endless posts, videos, memes, and affirmation quotes about love and marriage, not necessarily in that order. You probably saw everything from marriage is the greatest thing in the world to what’s love got to do with anything.

The ones that really caught my eye were the ones that said that love was not enough to make a marriage work, some going a step farther to say marriage had nothing to do with love. These social media posts would then list the things that were more important in a marriage like net worth, employment history, medical history and credit score. This really got me thinking what exactly do people want out of a marriage today.

When I first started ministering to people, I was kind of shocked by how many people came to me to discuss their romantic relationships. For some reason I was not expecting that to be a topic people would bring to me. They usually start out with why would a man that says they love me do this and why would a woman that says she wants a good man do that. I am sure you can see where this is going really quickly.

Okay let’s start from the beginning with marriage with a little hard truth and tough love; marriage is not for everyone. Let me say that again for the people in the back of the room, marriage is not for everyone. I will go a step farther and say it is probably not for most people. And when I say marriage I mean what we think of when we say marriage which is to meet someone, fall deeply in love, get married, have kids, and live the rest of your lives together.

The reason I say marriage is not for everyone is because many of you reading this and out there have already done a lot of items on this list before you even meet someone. This means that before you even get started you have failed the whole concept of what most people think of as marriage. This is where some people feel they need to make up ground and that is when they start making bad choices, mistakes, and the bitterness starts.

In our society most marriages end in divorce. Not only do they end in divorce they end in divorce soon. It really is amazing how quickly people can go from completely committing themselves to another person to hating their guts and can’t even stand to be in the same room with them.

So if most marriages end in divorce why do people still want to get married? Well I don’t think most people want to get married anymore. A lot of people still get married but most young people have no use for it. I mean there are people in “committed relationships” or as we used to say “shacking” for years. They live together, have children together, and do the things that married couples do but they never get married.  I don’t understand why anyone would want to do this other than maybe their credit score really is that important to them.

Seriously though, there is nothing in this world more beautiful than a loving married couple. Those posts make their way around the internet too. People’s hearts melt when they see people that have been together 25, 50, 75+ years. Just as happy today as they were when they got started. It is something most can not imagine and few even believe is real.

There really isn’t anything more powerful than love and it really is all that you need. I have seen many a person that had everything on that “need to have to be married list” and were unhappy with life but I have never seen a person filled with love and not love life and that is the kind of person it takes to be married.  

There ain’t many people in this world filled with love like that but thank God there are some. If you are lucky enough to be one or know one God bless you. Keep your love shining because this world needs all the love it can get. This world also needs all the loving marriages it can get too, remember to marry someone that you truly love and not just someone with a cute smile or large bank account. Cute and bank accounts come and go but love lasts a lifetime.