by Gray Graham
Mother's Day is a holiday that so many people love. It is the day so many take to thank their mothers for all the things they have done to make their lives better. People thank them for giving them birth, feeding them, clothing them, teaching them, and loving them. Everyone loves their mother and in our society only the most heartless person doesn't love and appreciate their mother.
Well that is the greeting card way of looking at motherhood but unfortunately that doesn't really reflect reality for most people. In many cases today the one thing that children truly need in life from the beginning is the one thing so many women are not doing for their children, getting married before they become mothers.
I can not tell you how many people I have talked to over the many years that has had issues with their mother and how they came into this world. We are long past the days where many children hear a tale of how their father went through a romantic courtship to marry their mother. Instead many are told tales of careless behavior or worse no tale at all about how they came to be.
Now I know that in today's society the concept of women thinking about becoming a wife before being a mother is one that most find impossible and ludicrous. As many of my single female friends tell me, when the question is posed as to why they do not have any children they respond by saying they decided to do it backwards and get married first and then have a child.
I have watched over the years as the concept of family has completely gone away. I recently read a study published about the concern among social scientists at the rise of children being born to women who are not married. Unfortunately in the African American community it as been around 75% for decades with no signs of decline. The tragic effect of this can be seen throughout the African American community.
What we do not see enough of is women teaching their daughters and other women the value and the need for families with a loving mother and father. Study after study clearly show that children that come from a loving two parent home lead more productive and happy lives than those that do not.
I know many women that have taken up the fight, often with ridicule and scorn from more liberal minded feminists that see marriage as servitude to men and their children instead of the greatest gift of them all. For me it often seems as though we are heading to a future where we are basically clones serving the authoritative state, instead of God loving individuals loving our families.
We can only pray that we still have enough people that see value in family, value in being a wife, and value in being a mother to bring stability back to our families for as any social scientist worth their salt will tell you, the fall of the family is the first broken pillar in a broken society.
And as anyone can tell you there is nothing in this world more powerful than the love of a mother for a child. Happy Mother's Day to the great women who are both great wives and great mothers.