by Gray Graham
No I can not. This is a question I get asked a lot. Because I reach out to a lot of people offer a helping hand people often ask me what I tried to do to change some phenom of human behavior that is prevalent in today's society. The answer is always pretty much the same, nothing.
Now I can reach a hand out to them. I can teach. I can listen. I can be supportive. I can do a lot of things but the one thing I can not do is change them. This is something many people really can't seem to grasp. I don't know if it is because it is just too painful to accept or it just does not fit in with what they wish the world was like.
I interact with a lot of people every single day. All walks of life. No matter how different we may think they are they all have one universal thing in common, they all live their lives exactly how they want and most are not going to change that for anyone.
Doubt what I say, do this for me. Think of a person you know that maybe had a character trait that needed to be changed. Could be anything from lying, over-eating, insulting, anything you can imagine. Now think about how that person acted when either they were confronted with this truth, or they moved past it and no longer did it. Were they surprised or did they know they were doing it all along?
Many people seem to think that "if they just knew better then they wouldn't behave that way". Nothing could be farther from the truth. People do what they do because that is what they want to do. It is a choice that they make, just like each of us has to do every day.
So can I change a single person in this world. No I can not. What I can do is be there for the ones that either seek me out or want to listen to what I have to say. In this world I know that people prefer to listen to sweet lies that are easy and make you feel good for a moment instead of the bitter truth that is hard to swallow and tells you about yourself. Change can only comes from within and only if you truly want it.