by Gray Graham
Today we are going to discuss what it takes to be a decent person. Not a saint. Not a great woman. Not an inspirational man. Just what it takes to be a decent human being.
Now before we talk about how to be a decent person we first have to define what a decent person is. To put it simply a decent person is someone that does more good than bad in their life. If they did any less good then they would cease to be a decent person and would slip to being a bad person.
We have too many people that are confusing being a decent person with being a good person. Just because you are not a terrible human being does not mean that you are a good person. If you are going through life doing just the bare minimum then you can not seriously believe you are a good person.
Raising your child, paying child support, and going to work are not something a good person would brag about but definitely something a decent person would mention all the time. Having five children with five different people in most morality system would not make you a good person. Wanting an award for not being a racist or a sexist are not things one should feel the need to point out to others.
If we are really honest does anyone truly care about even being a decent person. In order to care about being a decent person you would first have to care about the opinion and views of others about yourself. The under 30 generation definitely does not care what anyone thinks of their behavior. If we are honest many baby boomers and gen xers don’t care what others think about them either.
People make up their own rules about their behavior. When was the last time you heard someone say that they were a bad person? They might say it when they are drunk or feeling pitiful when talking to their significant other but almost no one goes around saying they are a bad person.
We have seen people kill children, their children, spouses, puppies, and kittens and not think they are a bad person. We have millions of people in the country who do not want to work to give every American being basic health care but they would swear they were good people.
There are people that have sexually assaulted dozens and beat their spouse yet people say they are still a decent person. We put more people in prison, majority of which are minorities, than any country in the world yet we believe we are a great nation.
There is a reason so few actually believe in the concept of good. Good is what you believe it is and everyone has a different definition that is personally skewed. If that is the case then how exactly do you behave as a decent person.
The answer is really quite simple. If you think about others and do right by them just a little bit more than you do about your self then at the very least you will be a decent person. For most people that is easier said than done. A lot of people have to go through a lot of things to get to that point.
It will probably take a lot of forgiveness and a lot of love something most people are in short supply but individually we can all get there if we try. The first step is to get to a place where we say what we are as a person. After that it easy.