by Chris Green
After reading alot of people's comments and notes on relationships for the last 3 weeks, I have to admit, I became angry. I became angry because I started feeling and thinking and believing that this cylcle of destruction in relationships between men and women will never end. But then I came to realize, the only person who is believing in this logic is myself. After reading the comments of both men and women who are happly married and reading comments of single men and women who do their best to live their lives according to GOD, I came to the amazing realization that I felt I have been away from for too long. This article can be read by anyone, but it have a special directed message to the men.
A man who is devoted to GOD completely, doesn't have to worry about securing a lady's safety or comfortablity. If the woman sees, recognizes, and is grateful for the man who is interested in her, that part of a man will come natually---automatic. Alot of women expect for men to do those things, simply because of what the WORLD tells men to do, that's how some women run into boys instead of men. Boys try to act like men with toughness, etc, but fail to understand that manhood and courage is being able to live his life by GOD w/o hesitation and is able to stand by it amongst pressure and insults from others. But the good right woman COMPLETES a man--So some men may not admit it, due to gender roles, but that's the truth...a good-real-tru woman of GOD----completes the real---tru--good man of GOD...Hill Harper said it best....When a man gets married to the woman he is in love with..if he is true to GOD and himself, he admits to himself, family, and her that saying I DO is when his manhood is truely completed.
Now what I am basically saying? I am saying that enough is enough with what the world tells you in regards to what makes a real man. Forget it, devote yourself to how GOD defines a real man. If you can do that consistently, all of Steve Harvey's profess, provide, and protect will come automatically. You won't be the breakdown car in a woman's driveway that needs to be towed away. You will be that brand new 2012 car that let's her know that you are true, you are real, and will not have the transmission fail on her. But it's only when you are devoted to GOD. Society has painted a flawed perception of what a real man is. God's perception of what a real man is- is flawless.
Yes, you will make mistakes. That's one of the biggest misconceptions to the world's perception of manhood. We are told that mistakes are unacceptable. We are told to never backdown even when we know we have messed up. The truth is, when you admit your mistakes and flaws and work on them consistiently though your actions, and forgive yourself with GOD's help, YOU ARE BEING A REAL MAN. When you are able to let go of the woman who doesn't understand or refuses to support your continued journey of being a real man---YOU ARE BEING A REAL MAN. When you devote yourself to GOD and you share your journey as GOD's REAL MAN with others, that's TRUE REAL MAN LEADERSHIP. THAT'S TRUE REAL MAN TAKING CHARGE. And no matter how long it takes, if you are patient, your service to GOD and others WILL GET NOTICED BY OTHERS AND THEY WILL FOLLOW YOU, ADMIRE YOU, RESPECT YOU, TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY, AND YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT TO DO IN ORDER TO HELP AND GUIDE THEM TO GOD'S GREATNESS AND AVOID THE WORLD'S GREATNESS.