by Oa'Toya James
My status is single and waiting. Waiting on the right man, sent by God to come and find me. And that’s it. Simple enough right? But, with regards to relationships, if it is one thing that I know, it’s that I don’t know.
So, after a promising encounter with a gentleman goes south, I question myself as to whether or not I’m being reasonable in how I think its suppose to play out. Many things go through my head, and I pose a question to God, “How will I be able to recognize him?”
What comes to mind is a Easter Egg Hunt at my church when I was in my teens.
by Shannon Tanner
If anyone can attest to the thrill of being a STRONG and independent woman, I can! I came into my marriage with a strong sense of self. I knew where I was going, and what it would take to get there. I often joke with my friends that I should have worn a t-shirt in the early years of my marriage that read: “Baby, I got this! Just hold my purse!” And while this kind of woman is often publicly celebrated and revered as the model of new age feminine success; privately her love life will eventually suffer. When women aggressively seek to meet their own needs, not only do we devalue the position of the men in our lives, but we also rob them of the opportunity to become who God designed them to be; our covering, our protectors our strength. We end up years later, tired weary and confused, wondering who is fighting for us? We push our men into a corner and then get mad when they are afraid to come out. We clip their wings and then get mad when they are afraid to fly.
by Oa'Toya James
I had that same question before as well. After I ended a very long relationship that lasted nearly all of my twenties I found myself in an unfamiliar position. I was in a new city, state and out of the club scene. So when I was ready to start back dating, I was having a hard time meeting guys. My beautician suggested that I try online dating. She had her laptop present and gave me a quick overview of how it worked. I will share with you what she shared with me and what I now know about online dating.
by Sequoia Houston
It’s amazing how sometimes a simple statement can hit you in such a way that it becomes profound…as if there’s some special secret shared between you and your consciousness…that happened to me today. While watching a video on zebras (don’t ask lol) I heard the narrator make a statement that moved me in such a way I simply felt that it would be selfish not to share…particularly with my single [ ie. non-married] sisters out there. The statement was this:
“Female cheetahs usually won’t have kittens unless a potential father can chase her for several DAYS in a long series of foot races.”