by Oa'Toya James
My status is single and waiting. Waiting on the right man, sent by God to come and find me. And that’s it. Simple enough right? But, with regards to relationships, if it is one thing that I know, it’s that I don’t know.
So, after a promising encounter with a gentleman goes south, I question myself as to whether or not I’m being reasonable in how I think its suppose to play out. Many things go through my head, and I pose a question to God, “How will I be able to recognize him?”
What comes to mind is a Easter Egg Hunt at my church when I was in my teens.
by Bo Beaudoin
Yes Sis, unfortunately for quite a few people height and weight are a really BIG deal. :-) No pun intended. People are shallow and all too concerned with what other people might “think” about them and the person who is the object of their affection. The average person is simple minded and quick to point out flaws and quirks with others in an attempt to mask their own insecurities and low self worth.
by Chris Green
We know this plight of relationships have been in debate for decades now with what appears to be no positive peaceful solution in sight. I am still single myself. Never been married, never had sex yet, thus, for some of you, you may have no desire or reason to read what I have to say off the "expectation for experience". If so, that's cool, you are entitled to that; but what I will say is that when one embraces and honors expectations and demands toward another, I feel that they are digging themselves a hole. That hole is called selfishness.
by Shannon Y. Tanner
The wounded woman emasculates
The wounded woman enters her marriage, often making her new man responsible for the men who have hurt or disappointed her in the past. This woman places an unrealistic level of expectation on a man, she forgets he is flesh and blood. I was this woman. I entered my marriage with an “independent STRONG woman “baby I GOT this, just hold my purse, bravado!” But inside, I was broken. The outside strength was a shield to guard against my deepest fear…I was not worthy of a man who would care for me, love me, protect me. I did not trust God or men to keep their word.
by Shannon Tanner
If anyone can attest to the thrill of being a STRONG and independent woman, I can! I came into my marriage with a strong sense of self. I knew where I was going, and what it would take to get there. I often joke with my friends that I should have worn a t-shirt in the early years of my marriage that read: “Baby, I got this! Just hold my purse!” And while this kind of woman is often publicly celebrated and revered as the model of new age feminine success; privately her love life will eventually suffer. When women aggressively seek to meet their own needs, not only do we devalue the position of the men in our lives, but we also rob them of the opportunity to become who God designed them to be; our covering, our protectors our strength. We end up years later, tired weary and confused, wondering who is fighting for us? We push our men into a corner and then get mad when they are afraid to come out. We clip their wings and then get mad when they are afraid to fly.
by Sequoia Houston
The list. Oh, you’ve heard of it. All of the traits that you want your mate to have. The things that you are believing in God to provide because, ask and ye shall receive, right? Over the years I’ve heard a number of arguments on why people should or shouldn’t have a list. On one hand, you shouldn’t settle for less than what you want/deserve; however, on the other hand, how do you really, truly know what you want until you’ve met the person? In fact, many of the successfully married people that I’ve met reveal that the person they married is not anyone they ever expected to wind up with, yet they couldn’t imagine life any other way.
by Oa'Toya James
I had that same question before as well. After I ended a very long relationship that lasted nearly all of my twenties I found myself in an unfamiliar position. I was in a new city, state and out of the club scene. So when I was ready to start back dating, I was having a hard time meeting guys. My beautician suggested that I try online dating. She had her laptop present and gave me a quick overview of how it worked. I will share with you what she shared with me and what I now know about online dating.