by Shawn Mcdowell
What I feel about dating today:
"Clowns to the left of me,Jokers to the right, here I am,Stuck in the middle with you."-Stealers Wheel
Having read hundreds of threads and listening to countless number of discussions regarding relationships, I never cease to be amazed at the level of mental discord and emotional chaos befuttling the minds of those who profess the desire to marry. How is it that some will take the efforts to obtain the education and knowledge necessary for their chosen profession, refuse to prepare themselves for their roles as husband or wife?
How you live your life as a single individual will certainly dictate the manner by which you will conduct yourself in a committed relationship or marriage. How does a person who has "dated" scores, hundreds or sometimes thousands of people believe they are prime marriage material? What is "special" about someone that anyone can have as easy as pulling an item off the clearance rack at Ross or the .99 cent store?
A person damn near has to hold a double Masters degree in Sociology & Psychology to sit down and have a cup of coffee with a member of the opposite sex today. With so many failed marriages and those who have been in and out of more relationships than there are grains of sand on a beach, it comes at no surprise that the gaps which divide continue to widen.
You have millions of men and women who ACTUALLY BELIEVE they are fit to be someones husband/wife, but practice behaviors not conducive to increasing the chances of long term success. "I WANT A HONEST MAN, SOMEBODY I CAN TALK TO, SOMEBODY WHO WILL NOT LIE OR CHEAT." But the person who has all of these "wants" has a multitude of "friends", FWBs on the side that are kept in the shadows when the so called "open & honest" discussions take place occuring during dating phase. As with most things today, words and definitions have been hijacked, contorted and distorted to cover or obfuscate the truth of the manner & nature by which one conducts themselves.
As you begin to peel the onion back on the issues that effect interpersonal relationships, you will find one or more of these cancers present within the individual: False pride, false sense of entitlement, false sense of intellectual superiority, lack of emotional integrity, lack of genuine honesty, lack of integrity and deep self delusion. It takes a great deal of self awareness, emotional integrity as well as a keen sense of ones surroundings not to succumb and fall into the pit of believing that ones sheet doesnt stink when everyone elses does.
I tend to ask very direct and pointed questions of women I date, and the moment they begin to start stut stut stuttering like Joe or become evasive, I rise and fly. I dont do character flaws, especially those dealing with trust, truth, loyalty, integrity, honesty and righteousness. If you do not possess them, dont have a snowflakes chance on a electric skillet getting or keeping company with the kid El Cid.
Racking up sexual body counts of unbelievable amounts and becoming a static energy generator for excedrin migrain moments seems to be quite prevalent among many in the dating pool today. Credibility and respect are two very difficult things to obtain, but so very easy to lose...especially from me.
"what a FOOL believes
(S)HE sees no wise (WO)MAN has the POWER TO REASON away
what seems to be is always better than nothing
and nothing at all..." Micheal MacDonald