by Stephanie k Tru
It's 2011 and we are all blessed to be alive and well in the New Year. Just like me you’re probably working on plans to address all the things you want to improve and change for the better in the New Year. Below I’ve shared an “edited” exert from my up-coming book entitled The Stiletto Power Manual. Since its resolution season I thought this passagewas most appropriate.
1.) Create a mission statement
What is your mission statement? Why are you here, what are you going to do about it, and why should the world care?
It’s ok to take some time with this for it is the bread and butter of your whole existence. You can start the mission statement by saying “I am _______and my mission is _______. I will do this by _______” This can be as short as 2 sentences or as long as a paragraph. It’s important you memorize this. It’s essential to your life and progression that you know why you’re alive and what your purpose is. If you have difficulty figuring out what your purpose is clear your mind and listen to your intuition while exercising the ability to ask God to help you become clear.
Where does your mission statement go? Well you didn’t think you were just going to write one up and then never look at it again once its memorized did you? Your mission statement should be big and bright on your VISION BOARD. If you don’t know how to create a vision board I will tell you how to not only create one but an effective one at that.
The purpose of your mission statement is to have some focus and direction in your life. Whenever your life is out of whack or you find yourself having meaningless conversations and doing activities that add no joy or value to your life you can stop and say your mission statement to yourself to realign yourself and your actions so that you can get back on the path to reaching your goals and walking in your purpose
2.) Create a REAL resume
This is a very helpful tool when cultivating your self-worth and increasing your value All you have to do is take your actual resume (you better already have a resumeJ) and add all the actual knowledge and know how you posses to it. It’s amazing how much knowledge and training we pick up throughout the years and it’s easy to forget all we know how to do and are good at.
Start with answering the questions
What do I know how to do?
What do I know how to do that I’ve actually mastered?
What certifications, degrees, or training do I have and what was it for?
What good qualities do you posses that have helped you attract what you’ve wanted and needed throughout your life? (Excellent communicator, active listen, loving and compassionate spouse and parent, good cook, detail orientated, and so on)
Once you’ve answered the questions above start filing in your resume. When it’s nice and updated take some time to assess what you have added. It should be an eye opener to all the valuable things you forgot you have to offer and any areas you might be lacking in.
Use this as a guide to improving yourself. It will do wonders to help you change your life and add to what you bring to the table be it in a romantic relationship, on a job, or with your friends and family
3.) Create a personal library
Everything you read, see, and hear is programming your mind daily. Many people fill themselves up with gossip about celebs, negative stories on the news and conversations filled with drama about this person and that person with friends and family. It might seem like meaningless fun but over time whatever you put into your mind will manifest itself. What are you reading? What are you nurturing yourself with? When was the last time you bought a book and actually READ IT?
It’s my feeling that every person should have a personal library. Try to fill it with books that can increase your knowledge and add value to your life as well as bring you joy for your leisure time. Every month you should be reading at least one new book a month and taking anything of value you pick up and applying it to your life.
Creating a personal library is an investment and if you aren’t willing to invest in yourself no one else will.
4.) Start a journal and USE IT
I know starting a journal might seem “so middle school” but there is a reason why journal writing is still popular and hasn’t lost its appeal. IT WORKS. Writing in a journal or diary is highly therapeutic because it supplies you an avenue to voice your inner most thoughts and feelings on every day events and your interactions with others.
The best and most effective part about a journal is that it allows you to keep track of your life progression in an informal way. It’s something very powerful about looking at your life 6 months prior and noticing that you’ve really made some significant changes for the better. If for some reason changes and habits were improved then it’ll be easy to see and a new plan of action can be made.
5.) Increase your vocabulary
Most Americans only use 25-30% of the English language and even when they do they use words in the wrong context. You can only do what you know and what you know is reflected by your vocabulary. Every day you should be learning a new word and finding a way to incorporate it into your writings and verbal conversations. Register at www.dictionary.com and then sign up to receive the word of the day in an email that you can open right on your phone. Here’s the link http://dictionary.reference.com/wordoftheday/list/
It’s amazing what you can do and who you can now talk to when your vocabulary increases so use this simple tool to increase your knowledge.
6.) Use your calendar
Many people have calendars all over the place: on phones, at desks at work, in the kitchen at home and so on. Most of us are using them wrong. Your calendar should not be used just to put up events only after you’ve been invented or been notified. Use your calendar for purposeful planning. Make a note that you will do a certain thing on a certain day that aligns with your goals and make sure you follow through. An example of this would could be writing on your calendar for March 1st “Released 10 pounds” and buy ticket to New York for mini vacation. Because you’ve made that goal everything you do until that date should align with that. Make sure whatever it is you want to do and when you want to do it is on your calendar. How you’ll do it or achieve the goals is the not the concern just plan and align your actions and thoughts and watch how all the plans manifest themselves.
7.) Cultivate your Confidence – It’s the key to success
Everything you do is either exuding confidence or insecurity. There are hardly any gray areas. You know a confident person when you see them. They walk in a room and command attention. The energy in the room changes and you don’t quite know what it is but you know they are someone important and mean business. In order to get all you need and want you have to move, speak, and act like you deserve it and you know without a doubt you will reach your goals. If you haven’t built up your self esteem and self worth enough to have the confidence you really need to make it happen pretend. Yes I said PRETEND. Pretend while you’re working on self: Every time you go out of the house practice holding your head high and speaking up when someone says hello. If you pretend and practice enough the behavior it will become second nature to you and become your actual reality. When you are confident people will start to take notice and you’ll see many doors start to open and opportunities present themselves.
Take your life from ordinary to extraordinary in 2011. Implement these habits and action in your daily life asap and I promise your life will change dramatically. Don't be afraid to be great. Its your birthright so make it happen