by Gray Graham
Children learn more by observing others than they do what others tell them. They know instantly when your actions contradict your words. As parents what are you showing your children when it comes to God. Does your daily behavior show them that you love God and are following Jesus Christ?
I see a lot of parents daily share how they have talks with their children. Sometimes these talks catch the parent off guard because it brings to light an aspect of their lives that calls into question their faith and what they truly believe.
Some people have become comfortable making a proclamation about their faith and that being the end of it. That usually works because most people really don’t care what your faith is or is not. If you are a chief sinner but proclaim that you are a saint, then it is no skin off their back. They are probably in the same boat that you are so they are not going to question you because they don’t want you questioning them. So whatever you say is going to be okay with them.
Your children are different. They are looking to you to teach them about the world. If you have taught your children according to the Bible it is not going to take long before what you have taught them is going to conflict with what they observe in the world. At some point they are going to bring that concern to you because they are going to seek answers as to why and how they should handle the situation.
But what do you do when you are the source of their confusion? What do you do when it is your behavior and your actions that are causing your children to question not only your faith but their own faith? What do you do when someone tells them that your behavior is not right and they also feel that it is not right?
Too often instead of facing the truth brought before you as a parent, people chose to try to silence the child. To try and tell the child that they should not question the parent’s behavior. Sometimes the parent tries to justify the behavior or better yet seek pity from the child to understand why the parent has come up short in their faith.
We have reached a point in our society that often the child has more faith and wisdom than the parent. We are at a place where parents are the ones that are lost and their children have had to seek out the righteous path of God on their own.
But we are also at the point where many children have been led astray by their parents. They were placed on the wrong path and they have taken that path even further than before. They seek to do even greater evil deeds than their parents. This is why each generation seems to be both better and worse than the previous generation. Some children are closer to God, others are further away.
So I want you to take a moment and think if you child questioned your life, are you confident that you could respond in a way that shows that you are serving God. Is your life a testimony to your children of what service to God looks like?
When you are far away or long gone, will your child be able to remember their parents and draw strength from how you lived your life for God. Have you been that shield to protect and cover them in God’s grace.
I see a lot of people everyday that have turned away from God simply because they know that their parents did not follow God. Many never believed in God because they never saw belief in their parents.
When you children come to you in faith seeking guidance in the Spirit, are you able to help them or are you lost yourself? If you are not where you need to be then you need to get there. Your children need you to be their foundation in the Spirit. If that foundation is shaky then they are going to have a shaky life. It is your job to make sure you give them the strength in God they need in life and that is something you must do daily.