Part 6 of our: The Key To A Happy,Loving Marriage series
Unlike the other points we are making in our series, this is a point that most couples know they need, but many can not seem to get quite there. People constantly talk about finding someone to make a connection, a soul-mate if you will, someone that you can share your life.
The reason the connection can not be made however is that a marriage is between a man and a woman, not a man, a woman, her mother, his brother, and their best friends from childhood. A marriage is the one relationship you will have in your life that you are not suppose to share. Unfortunately it this the area where many fail.
Marriage is not a conditional clause that can be written off. It is a serious commitment to another person. Marriage is two people making a promise to one another to be there for each other through sickness, health, hardship and success. For some people it becomes a place of loneliness because there are things that they are unable to share with the other people in their lives.
Issues will arise between you and your spouse. Some will be more sensitive than others. Regardless of the subject matter it is important for you and your spouse to communicate with each other. But what happens when you and your spouse disagree, what do you do then? Too often people do what they always do and that is seek the advice of someone that they trust.
Most people fail to realize that when you invite outsiders into your marriage you basically hand them the keys your soul. How often does a wife tell her mother or close friend she is pregnant before telling her husband? How often does a husband tell his brother or friend about his sex life?
Your marriage is something that has been witnessed by God and should be treated as sacred because marriage is sacred. By allowing others to know everything that occurs in your marriage, you will ruin your marriage and scar your spouse for life with bitter feelings.
The reason that people feel the need to include other people in their marriage comes directly from them not fully trusting their spouse. They married someone that they do not fully trust and have no confidence. They have not reached a place where they are more important than the other people in their lives. It is more important for them to please them than their spouse. They don't truly treasure their spouse above themselves and others.
If your first instinct is not to say, none of your business when your mother, brother, or friend asks you about your marriage then you can expect to have problems throughout your marriage. If it is not a long bitter, loveless union then it will end in a cold divorce.
Always remember that your marriage is formed before God as a bond between you and your spouse. You both agreed to become one and that union does not include anyone else. There are simply too many people that marry forgetting this simple premise which probably explains why our divorce rate is so high and why so many marriages fail.
This is what happens when we do things the opposite of how God has instructed and anytime we conflict with God the results are going to be bad. So if you want to have a marriage that lasts a lifetime make sure it only includes God, you, and your spouse. Show everyone else the door.