by Gray Graham
Part 3 of our: The Key To A Happy,Loving Marriage series
We talk about marriage as a lifelong commitment but that is not exactly how many of us view it. Often times the couple does not actually think about the marriage until after the wedding. They never sit down to discuss what life together will be like and if that is what they truly desire.
Today far too many people get engrossed in relationships that starts out very casual, yet they know very little about their partners. One of the keys to a healthy relationship is that you get to know the person. You need to know what motivates them in life. What are their interests, likes, dislikes, and beliefs.
Before you begin planning a wedding you should already know this is the person for you. You should have already asked all the questions, answered all the questions, and prayed for guidance before asking or accepting a proposal.
This is the time to decide if there is something about them that just does not fit in with what you want in life. If there is something then this is where you both need to understand that marriage is not the right thing for you.
There is nothing wrong with having boundaries in life. Having boundaries allows you to be comfortable within the relationship that is being established between each other. If there are things that you don't feel comfortable with just let them go. Don't try to make something work that will only end badly for everyone involved.
If more people took time to be true to themselves then they would not enter into relationships that ultimately lead to heartache. We have to understand that once we marry someone they will be a part of us for the rest of their lives. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, even in our society where love is not a requirement for marriage and divorce is common. Divorce is only a legal proceeding it does not remove the emotional and spiritual connection you make. No amount of self proclamations is going to change that fact.
So while it should go without saying, before you say “I do” make sure this is the person you will spend the rest of your life through all its ups and downs. If you are unsure then never say I do. It may be hard but it may be the best act of love you will ever do in your life.