by Gray Graham
Part 4 of our: The Key To A Happy,Loving Marriage series
Today far too many people become engrossed in relationships that started out as a casual fling. They know very little about the other person in the relationship. One of the keys to a healthy marriage is that you know your spouse. What are their interests, likes, dislikes, and beliefs. You need to know what motivates them in life.
In the very beginning people should have a plethora of questions about each other. By asking questions you are showing someone that you are interested in learning about them and who they truly are. This will establish a foundation of trust and honesty within your marriage.
When starting a relationship don't be afraid to ask sensitive questions in the very beginning about important topics such as marriage, children, and religion. If you are unwilling to compromise on any issues, it is best to get that out in the open in the beginning. Far too often people hold back their true beliefs because of fear of losing the person. This is one of the most unfair and hurtful things you can do to someone and has ended more than one marriage over the years.
There is nothing wrong with having beliefs you are not willing to give up in life. Having core beliefs allows you to be comfortable within the marriage that is being established between two people. If there are things that you don't feel comfortable, just move on. Don't try to make something work that will only end badly for everyone involved.
Be honest with each other. Too often marriages are viewed as a sure thing that suddenly results in broken vows, broken hearts, and broken families. If your are in a bad relationship stop investing into the fund of false hope that it will become a good marriage.
You and your potential spouse should be able to communicate your feelings about everything to each other. You should be able to accept each other for who you are. It is much easier to end a relationship than it is a marriage. After all a marriage is suppose to be for life so make sure to know the person you plan on spending your life.