by Chris Green
We currently live in a culture that teaches us that "failure is never an option". "Failure makes us weak." "Failure makes us unmanly." The truth is, embracing times when we fail is exactly what helps men become REAL MEN. I used to be a perfectionist. I used to feel extemely bad on myself when one little thing didn't go my way. Sometimes, this irresponsible emotion led to committing stupid behaviors. However, GOD gave me another chance and I am making the best of it and so can you.
In the 2nd chapter of 1 Samuel, Eli embraces one of his greatest failures in life. He failed in raising his sons to be responsibile real men by failing to hold them accountable for their sinful behavior. However, Eli was given a second chance by GOD by being able to positvely mentor Samuel into becoming a man of GOD. As men desiring to become REAL men, it is vital that we acknowledge our shortcomings, embrace them, and then give them to GOD so when times come when our shortcomings are creeping in, our commitment to GOD will allow us to deal with it in the best way possible. We should NEVER strive to be perfect, that's IMPOSSIBLE, but yet our culture tells us men that we have to be darn close to it.
God will always allow men to live second chances by giving back to young boys. Mentor someone, spread the message of GOD's greatness. I do my part in the classroom which allows me to continue to help and support students even after they finish my class. I do my part by talking to people through social networking, telling them about GOD. I have endured many failures in my life.
The poison flowed through my veins when I chose to allow failures to keep me depressed, emotionally beaten up, and kept me from moving forward.
Worldly expectations for men set men up to not just experience harsh failure, but also use it to create defensive walls over our emotions and cause some men to become and act fake. I speak this out of personal experience.
But I dont weigh myself on those anymore. God gave me a second chance. I have positive male church leaders that mentor me, I have a father who also was given a second chance from GOD to mentor his adult off-spring. I have embraced my failures with the help from GOD.
Men: We must stop falling victim to the worldly expectations of what is considered manhood. True real manhood comes from consistently living and leading your life based on GOD's direction. Stop beating yourself over your failures. I don't hear the referee reaching 10 yet on the 10 count, so GET UP!
Would've, Should've and Could've are WORLDLY values of embracing failure as a poison. Replace them with I CAN, I DO, and I WILL which are GODLY values.
Embrace your flaws, embrace your failures, cause each failure allows you a chance to grow and become a better man with GOD's second chance.
I used to allow the bitterness of my failures to make me act fake. This ruined trust, relationships, and caused people to not want to follow my lead and not take me as a man, but as a child.